Learning Meekness: Strength Under Control
What the Bible Says About Meekness
In Scripture, meekness is often misunderstood. It is not a weakness. It is not being passive, timid, or a doormat. Biblical meekness is strength under control, a posture of humility, gentleness, and trust in God rather than ourselves.
Jesus said in Matthew 5:5:
“Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.”
That doesn't sound weak; it sounds full of authority, trust, and promise.
Meekness is choosing:
Gentleness when you could respond in anger
Humility when you could assert control
Trust in God when you want to take over
My Struggle With Meekness
Recently, I found myself struggling in a few areas of my life. I'm thankful for a close friend I can be real with, someone to talk to about my spiritual walk and the challenges I face.
During one conversation, they told me,
“I think you need to learn more about being meek.”
I laughed.
Because in my mind, being meek as a woman meant being weak… subservient… a doormat—things God had already brought me out of. I had no desire to go back.
But studying this word taught me something powerful: meekness is not weakness,it'ss strength under control.
And if you're anything like me… that's hard.
What God Showed Me
As I dug deeper, I realized meekness also looks like:
Gentleness
Kindness
A soft tone
Patience
I had to be honest with myself… these aren't always my natural strengths.
So I cried out to God:
“What are You doing? I’m not these things. How could You still want to use me?”
And He showed me: He never asked me to be perfect already. He only invited me to let Him teach me.
The Journey of Growth
That's where I am right now, in a process of learning.
Maybe your journey looks different. Maybe God is working on something else in you.
Here's what I've learned:
I'm not supposed to have all the answers
I'm not supposed to be the smartest person in the room
I'm not supposed to fix everything
I'm simply supposed to faithfully give it to God every single day.
A Question for You
If something in your life feels off… something you know needs refining… ask yourself:
How is your quiet time?
Do you spend time with God daily?
Do you sit with Him—not just talk, but listen?
Do you give Him your struggles and actually wait for His response?
One of the hardest things I've had to learn is not just talking to God… but being still long enough to hear Him.
The Truth About Growth
Everything I've walked through, every challenge, everything I've had to lay down has been hard.
But holding onto God has brought me through every single time.
Am I fully "there" yet? No.
And honestly? I may never "arrive."
Because I never want to stop learning. I never want to stop growing. I never want to stop becoming better in Him.
You Are Not Alone
Wherever you are in your journey… You are not alone.
Every one of us is searching for something bigger than ourselves: personal healing, purpose, or peace.
God is in every step, and He can meet you right where you are.
A Word of Wisdom
If you're trying to grow in a specific area:
Find someone who has walked that path
Ask them: What helped? What didn't work?
Build a system that works for you, but keep it Christ-centered
That's what makes you the best version of yourself.
Final Encouragement
As you go out into the world… make it better:
One decision at a time
One truth at a time
One piece of God in you at a time
In a world that wants quick answers, be someone who reflects Christ. Let people see:
Your growth
Your journey
Your healing
Your testimony
Tell them where you've been, what you've overcome, and most importantly… what God has done for you.
From El Roi Community Outreach
If you don't know God but something in this spoke to you…
Reach out to us. We would love to walk alongside you and help you take that next step.
From all of us at El Roi Community Outreach:
We love you
We are praying for you
You are not alone
Learning meekness isn't about being weak—it's about learning to trust God with your strength. It's about choosing gentleness, patience, and humility even when life feels hard or unfair.
Take a moment today to ask yourself: Where can I lean on Him more? Where can I let go of control and let God guide my heart?
Your journey won't be perfect. You will stumble. You will grow slowly. And that's okay. Every small step matters.
Remember, you're not walking this path alone. God is with you in every struggle, every choice, and every quiet moment. And as you let Him shape your heart, you will discover a strength that is gentle, steady, and unstoppable.
~Stephanie Cadengo
